Loving an addict is about the most hopeless thing you can do. There seems to be no rhyme or reason to what they do. And you can’t enable them. You can’t fix them. Even if they want to quit, it has to be every day. For them one day is a victory. To you it’s only one day. They hurt those who love them most. They will either quit or die, and there is nothing you can do but love them. And pray.